Mrs. Tulgestke’s Classroom Happenings

Teach people to perceive you in the way that you feel you actually should be perceived.

Re:  McGraw, Jay, Daily Life Strategies for Teens

It is not fair to ask others what you are not willing to do yourself.

Re:  McGraw, Jay, Daily Life Strategies for Teens

All relationships can be renegotiated.  You can reopen negotiations through either word or deed.  To do this you have to identify what you are doing to support and allow the behaviors that you don’t like in others.  Once you have identified those behaviors, then you start changing to make others change, and people will treat you in a different way.

Re:  McGraw, Jay, Daily Life Strategies for Teens

Your power and ability to change relationships is not limited just to that relationship you have with your parents.  you have control over how your peers treat you, as well.  Both the good and the bad news is that you have taught or allowed the bully or walking gossip column or fair-weather friend to treat you as he or she does.  So you have control over your interactions and you can decide to do something to change them today.

Re:  McGraw, Jay, Daily Life Strategies for Teens

Hello everyone,

What a fast paced couple of weeks.  Hopefully everyone is settled into the routine of school and are comfortable getting from class to class.

Just a reminder that picture day is Thursday, September 24.  Your student was given the order form last week, so if you would like to order any school pictures, be sure to get your money and order form in by Thursday at the latest.  Also, thank you to those who have donated Kleenex.  We could still use some more as the colds have begun already, including myself.  It doesn’t take long when you get everone in the same room again!

If you ever have any questions or concerns, don’t hesitate to give me a call, 231-777-4972, ext. 109.

Mrs. Tulgestke

What have you been teaching your parents?  That you are reliable, predictable, and competent?  Or that you are going to break and run off every time you get half a chance?  Seriously decide what you have been doing to set your relationship up, however it is: and remember, you are not a victim.

Re:  McGraw, Jay, Daily Life Strategies for Teens

People learn by the results that you choose to give them, and in that respect you are in control of every relationship you have.

Re:  McGraw, Jay, Daily Life Strategies for Teens

If you expect either of your parents to be negative, critical, and resistant to your ideas, that is most likely how you will interpret their behavior, even if that is not how they are actually behaving.  To make sure you are delivering the message that you want, you must check your expectations and figure out if you and your parents are setting yourselves and one another up for disaster.  Realize that through your behavior you can create new expectations with your parents that get you what you want.

Re:  McGraw, Jay, Daily Life Strategies for Teens

If people, particulary your parents, are at first resistant to changing how they treat you, it is because you taught them to be resistant.  You taught them so well that they have formed habits.  Habits can be stubborn, but they can be changed.  Keep trying.

Re:  McGraw, Jay, Daily Life Strategies for Teens

You can also teach people how to treat you by what you don’t say.  For example, you have been out with your friends and come home at the very last moment before your curfew.  Your parents confront you and ask what you did and where you went:  you are evasive and vague and dismissive.  Realize that in situations like this one, you are teaching them to be nervous about what you are doing when you are out.  People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.  Are you teaching your parents that you have something to hide and therefore they should be nervous and impose more limitations on you?

Re:  McGraw, Jay, Daily Life Strategies for Teens